Pressure pushes us and places demands on our physical, mental and emotional well-being which make things not so ideal
We put ourselves under a lot of pressure, in a quest to be accepted by our friends, family, peers and the society. We struggle to keep up all the time, we try so hard to impress people who don’t care about us, we loose our peace and sleep just because we want to feel accepted and belong. The society is not even helping matters as it tends to shape our lives in certain ways, the way we talk, walk or do things . Mediocrity seem to be more accepted, good virtues like integrity, discipline, honesty, self esteem and good morals are daily being dumped in the garbage bin. Immoral conduct, pessimism and their friends are celebrated and amplified.
Our youths feel the pressure more and more to belong, there by dumping the good values they learnt from home, picking up the garbage accepted by the all.
Single ladies are seen as irresponsible, choosy and not ready to settle down, quite a lot has fallen into that trap by rushing into relationships and marriages that have cost them their lives, peace and joy. Many are there just trying to survive, the rate of divorce now sources said is about 60%, this is alarming and disturbing.
Single men with good jobs and stable lifestyle are either not responsible or have something shady about them since they are not married. Many are pushed into dark holes that truncate their destinies and inner peace, there are many intimate strangers living together and some put up a facade just to keep appearance
Young unemployed graduates are looked at as not been serious or being lazy, and many have joined bad gangs in a bid to live up to the standards created by the society and their peers. The rate of suicide has taken an increasing toll, just last week a young guy less than 30 years of age jumped into the carnal, the result of these pressures are
- Lack of self worth,
- Make it at any cost attitude (robbery, rituals etc.)
- Depression and
- Ultimately suicide when the pressure becomes too much to bear
How do we survive such situation, keeping our cool and thriving.
- You need to believe in yourself and know your ability, lack of confidence and self esteem is one of the reason why people feel the need to be accepted and belong.
- Don’t go with the crowd because when you do you will never get ahead of the crowd, you will always be within. Those who have made landmarks today are not crowd followers
- Follow your heart do what your heart says, with time people will come to accept you for who you are and what you are doing, don’t try to live other people’s life, be true and genuine and do fake up things.
- Pray for guidance and direction as we can do nothing without God.
- Take a bold step, be known for your values, don’t be a garbage bin that accept anything thrown at it, define what is acceptable by you not what the society or your peers want. Be a person of your own.
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